Of course you should have fun and enjoy the moment, but if you get too excited, anxious and giddy, you might come on too strong.

Keep your thoughts on the reality that you don’t know what is going to happen to the relationship.

Pay attention to what you are learning about your date, and allow the relationship to develop slowly over many dates like this.

DON'TS • Don’t assume your date is exclusive with you if you've never talked about it. Occasional silences allow a conversation to feel natural and unforced. Good reasons for going slowly into sexual activity include: reducing the risk of sexually transmitted diseases, avoiding the awkwardness of intimacy with a total stranger; averting codependent obsession; and having sex to look forward to.

If and when sex is right, it will happen—there’s no advantage in rushing. It doesn't impress your date if, in the long run, you have to make an embarrassing confession, and “buying” someone's company doesn’t work.

One of the easiest ways to lose your objectivity and balance in this is to let yourself worry about what your date thinks about you.

I call this “getting into your date’s head.” If you spend your time essentially trying to look at yourself through your date’s eyes, guessing what he or she is seeing when looking at you, or hearing when listening to you, you’ll miss what’s really happening.

• Use the Power of Charm Remember how powerful your smile can be, and use your eye contact and ask questions to keep the conversation flowing.

Think about what interests you about your date, and show interest in his or her opinions, experiences and activities.

• Don’t Talk Too Much about Yourself Keep your focus on learning about your date and don’t get into talking too much about yourself. The most important aspect of any date, in addition to having a good time, is to get to know each other better.