Sure, we know you think we are great at it, but we need to hear it.

Plus, when you feed our egos, the odds are it will pay off for you in the near future.

At that point, after more than our share of failed relationships, we both genuinely thought we had found “the one.”◊♦◊The day I was granted equal custody of my daughter fell smack-dab right in the middle of our relationship, and looking back, it was a defining moment for us—the day I can pinpoint as the beginning of the end.

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So if you ever find yourself thinking that you are just tolerating our kids because we are a “package deal”, just leave. Being a single parent with a vindictive ex who would be willing to do anything to remove you from your child’s life, is pure hell. We are going to have arguments with our child’s mother and threats of going back to court.

We don’t have time to waste in a relationship with someone who “tolerates” our kids. We don’t need you to fix anything or tell us what to do.

We just need you to reassure us that everything is going to work out.

These days, mothers are almost always viewed by the courts and the general public as the most capable and nurturing parent.

The littlest thing that was said in passing, months before, is suddenly brought up again as a supposed glaring infraction on our part.

We want you to trust us so we aren’t always walking on eggshells.

But once I suddenly had her half the time, it became almost impossible for us to make plans together.

She had children too, so trying to balance both of our schedules and find evenings that we were both kid-free just put more and more stress on our relationship.

We already have to do that around our ex, in order to attempt to co-parent.

You telling us that you trust us, means so much more to a dad who is constantly being ridiculed by our child’s other parent for our past infractions. There are nights that even a quickie is out of the question, because by the time homework is done and the dishwasher is loaded, there is no way in hell we are doing anything but falling into our bed and passing out.

Hell, once they can eat and get dressed on their own, they can practically babysit themselves, right?