Always remember that the courtship phase is for the parents.

This is the phase in which you should introduce each other to your children, as the kids can feel a sense of permanency and stability.

Also consider the amount of time you have been divorced.

Even so, the presence of someone new, particularly when paraded in front of the spouse and/or children, can enrage the soon-to-be ex, and also create the suspicion that the relationship began as an “affair” before the separation.

The innocent new friend can be deposed by the other side’s lawyer (that is, asked questions that are taken under oath and recorded by a stenographer or even videotaped) and subpoenaed to testify at trial.

When and how to introduce the kids to your dating partner and their kids depends on several variables. Think of people you might have known or dated in the past.

Do you remember what they were like after two weeks versus two months?

Instead of determining when to introduce the kids based on the amount of time that has passed, think about it in terms of where you are in your relationship.

There are several stages to any relationship: the first, or "courting" phase, should be about having fun and really getting to know one another separate from kids, family and friends.

There is no distinction between platonic contacts and ones that are romantic or sexual, although from a practical standpoint, the romantic/sexual relationships are the ones that draw scrutiny and cause complications.

The reason divorce lawyers counsel against dating while the divorce is pending, even if separated, is that it has the potential to increase both the cost and the stress of the divorce trial. Judges, however, rarely punish someone who begins dating – sexually or otherwise – once they have physically separated from their spouse.

” This question comes up quite often for soon-to-be divorcees.