If you like someone enough, open your mind to other possibilities.

Don’t rule someone out just because you’re both bottoms, for example; nothing is set in stone.

The idea that men who put out aren’t good enough to take home to meet our mother is nonsense. Sex alone won’t ruin everything, believe me, plenty of other things can go wrong.

The Guyliner has been writing about gay dating since 2010 and is also a columnist at Gay Times Magazine.

Be positive Many guys are very clear in their dating profiles – almost rudely so – about what they don’t want or like.

Not only is this far too prescriptive, you also run the risk of coming across as overly negative.

We whinge that we can’t find the right man, or never get a second date, but the usual reason is we’re not looking hard enough in the first place.

Whether we’re into bears, jocks or geeks, sometimes our narrow search criteria holds us back.

If you both feel a connection and want to have sex, go with the flow We place a lot of importance, misguidedly I feel, on not having sex on the first date.

Whether we’re reluctant to perpetuate the stereotype that gay men are promiscuous, or tell ourselves boys who give it up on the first date are less desirable, we certainly think too much about this one.

Having fixed ideas of what you want – which usually boil down to looks and little else – could be standing in your way of meeting some great guys.